“The first to plead his case seems right, until another comes and examines him.” Proverbs 18:17
How often does someone come to you regarding a dispute and want you to intervene or express an opinion about it? Sometimes, often, all the time or never? Sounds like a multiple choice exam, doesn’t it?
Most of us will have occasion to find ourselves in the middle of a dispute or disagreement of some sort and have to serve as a mediator, supporter or listener.
We have heard umpteen times that there are two sides to every argument. However, when it involves us… the other side doesn’t count.
What’s fascinating about this is the phenomenon that whenever we get drawn into a dispute between two people, the one who shares first almost always seems right. I have sat with husbands who have issues with their wives and after listening to them, I have severe reservations about their wives until I hear the wives and then I need the Wisdom of Solomon.
People seldom lie to their pastor. But they do give their perspective of the situation. Then, upon examining the other side, you soon realize that there is a different perspective on the same situation.
Take to heart what it says in Proverbs 18:17. If asked to intervene or express an opinion regarding a dispute, try to listen to both sides before coming to a conclusion.