Way #1 – Don’t expect more of them than they are capable of doing or giving.
Way #2 – Be careful how you reprimand them.
Ephesians 4:31 teaches us to “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.”
Parents should never reprimand them when they are angry. We should reprimand our children the moment their children need it rather than waiting until their behavior upsets us.
For example, a parent tells their child to put away his or her toys. The child does not do it and so the parent does. After the fifth occasion of such an occurrence, the parent is really angry and gets upset at the child for every occurrence rather than just the current one. As a result, the reprimand is disproportionate to the offense, which will provoke the child.
Make sure the reprimand or penalty fits the offense. This is what the Bible means when it says, “an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth”. The reprimand must fit the offense.
I have experienced parents who will ground their sixteen year old teenager for a month for not cleaning up their room in time. Trust me...that offense could have been taken care of years earlier. Guess who was probably cleaning up the room the first fifteen years.
So, be faithful in reprimanding your children at the moment it is needed and make sure that the reprimand fits the offense. This will prevent us as parents from provoking our children to anger.
Something to think about…