Not Provoking Our Children – Way #3

Way #1 – Don’t expect more of them than they are capable of doing or giving.

Way #2 – Be careful how you reprimand them.

Way #3 – Practice what you preach and avoid double standards.

Paul wrote in Philippians 4:9, “The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things; and the God of peace shall be with you.” He asked the church to do as he did and not just as he said. Paul practiced what he preached. 

Someone once wrote, “The footsteps a child follows are most likely to be the ones his parents thought they covered up.” It is absolutely uncanny how children can detect insincerity in their parents. Even little children can identify a double standard when they see it.

For instance, a mother tells her children to eat all their vegetables because it’s important and reprimands them when they don’t while daddy never eats any veggies. In their minds, there is something wrong with this picture. 

During a meal with my grandkids, I reminded them not to put their elbows on the table while they were eating. In a nanosecond later, one of them said kindly, “Grandpa, you have your elbows on the table”.  Busted! Rather than try to squirm out of it, I thanked them for reminding me and took my elbows off the table.

Do as I do and not as I say.  Practice what we preach and avoid double standards.

Something to think about…