Way #1 – Don’t expect more of them than they are capable of doing or giving.
Way #2 – Be careful how you reprimand them.
Way #3 – Practice what you preach and avoid double standards.
Way #4 - Teach them proper values.
Ephesians 6:4b says, “…and bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Once again, this is one of my life verses when it comes to parenting. We are to both discipline our children and instruct them in the Lord, which means teaching them biblical values.
Discipline and biblical instruction help children develop a proper perspective on life because they both correct unhelpful and incorrect thinking.
Children get more easily provoked when they hold to incorrect values or ungodly beliefs.
For instance, the Bible will teach them to obey their parents, which is correct thinking about authority and submission. If children embrace the fact that they are to obey their parents, they will be less easily provoked by their parents.
When I coach youngsters in a sport, one of the first lessons I teach them is living under proper authority. I let them know that God wants us to learn to live under proper authority all of our lives and that athletics is one way they will learn to do so.
As a result of this biblical value, the team is far less likely to be provoked to anger when I ask them to do something they don’t really want or like to do.
What foundational biblical values should we be teaching our children?
Something to think about…