Not Provoking Our Children

In raising our children, I had two life parenting verses. One of them was Ephesians 6:4 which says, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”

This verse begins by instructing us not to provoke our children to anger, which means that we are capable of provoking them to anger. It would therefore be important to learn how not to provoke our children.

The next several Thursday blogs will be devoted to some ways that will help keep us from provoking our children to anger.

Way #1 – Don’t expect more of them than they are capable of doing or giving.

Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go…” It takes into account that the trainee is a child. If we discipline them or rebuke them for things that children naturally do, they can rightfully be angry.

I have heard parents tell their children as they let them outside to play with other children, “Now don’t get dirty.” And then, reprimand their child for getting dirty. Children playing outside get dirty. Don’t expect otherwise. They know that they couldn’t help getting dirty and intuitively know that a reprimand from us is unjust.

At work, if we have a supervisor who demands that we do a project in one day that would take superhuman effort to get done in three days and then reprimands us for not getting it done, would we get justly upset? We should expect no less from our child.

Remember that our children are children. We need to do our best to make sure that our expectations of them are age and ability appropriate.

Something to think about…