Disciplining Children: Making Good Rules – Part Five

“Then God spoke all these words, saying…” Exodus 20:1

Guideline #1: Set clear boundaries and limits. 

Guideline #2: Avoid unannounced or arbitrary (random) rules.

Guideline #3: Make sure they understand the rules and guidelines.

Guideline #4: Keep the rules simple and few.

Guideline#5: Avoid rules they cannot keep.

Guideline #6: Be consistent with the rules.

Guideline #7: Seek to establish rules on biblical principles.

Guideline #8: Avoid rules and consequences that you cannot enforce 

#9 Set a good example.

Someone once wrote, “The footsteps a child follows are most likely to be the ones his parents thought they covered up.”

Children are mimickers.  They learn through mimicking.  They see and they imitate.  They learn best by example.

If parents want their children to say “thank you” and “please”, they need to be sure they say, “thank you” and “please”.  If parents desire their children to speak the truth, and then they should never have their children tell a phone solicitor that they’re not home when they are at home.

I know of more than one family that tries to get their children to eat their vegetables while daddy eats nary a green bean.  They wonder why they get disciplined for not eating green things when daddy doesn’t.

As Christ followers, we are supposed to imitate Jesus or those who are living like Jesus.  Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 11:1,  “Be imitators of me, just as I also am of Christ.”  To follow in the footsteps of Jesus means that we are to be like His children and we mimic Him as best we can. 

As a parent, what kind of example are you setting for your children?

Something to think about…