How to Discipline Your Children – Part Four

Be in agreement with your spouse as to form, frequency and necessity

Genesis 2:24 makes a statement about husbands and wives.  It states “…and they shall become one flesh.”  There should be an intrinsic unity between husbands and wives.  Unity doesn’t always mean agreement or unanimity.  It means a united front even when there is a lack of total agreement.

It is vital for dads and moms to display a united front when disciplining children.  Lack of agreement will confuse children.  Also, children have an innate ability to play both ends against the middle.

Being in agreement about discipline means that a dad and a mom need to sit down and talk about the how they are going to discipline their children.  Whenever there is disagreement, parents need to settle their differences before continuing their journey of disciplining their children.

Be consistent

Jesus taught us a marvelous truth in Matthew 5:37a.  He said, “But let your statement be, ‘Yes, yes’ or ‘No, no’…”  In other words, mean what you say and say what you mean.  Think before you speak.  Make sure that your word is your bond.

Nothing confuses children more that lack of consistency from parents with regards to discipline.  Children need a stable environment in which to grow and mature as stable adults.  Consistent discipline will help them immeasurably.

Sometimes parents will allow a curfew to be broken by their teenage child.  The teenager walks in the door from a party an hour late and the parents asks how they liked the party.  Another time, the same teen comes home fifteen minutes late from another party and gets grounded for two weeks.  This type of inconsistency will provoke a child to anger (see Ephesians 6:4).

Being in agreement as a parents will help with consistency.

Raising children is challenging.  Being in agreement and being consistent will increase peace and lessen strife.

Something to think about…