Not Provoking Our Children – Way #7

Way #1 – Don’t expect more of them than they are capable of doing or giving.

Way #2 – Be careful how you reprimand them.

Way #3 – Practice what you preach and avoid double standards.

Way #4 - Teach them proper values.

Way #5 – Have good times with your kids.

Way #6 – Communicate affirmation, appreciation and encouragement.

Way #7 - Allow them to make mistakes.

Children make childish mistakes.  They talk too loud at times.  They forget to do things.  They bicker over little things.  They run when they should walk.  They don’t always think before they act. They behave like children and not adults.

A wise parent knows the difference between belligerence and being a child.  A rebellious spirit needs to be treated with discipline.  A childish spirit needs to be treated with patience and understanding.

The Apostle Paul exhorts us to walk in a manner worthy of our Christ calling.  He wrote in Ephesians 4:1-2, “I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, entreat you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing forbearance to one another in love.” 

Showing forbearance means to endure with patience.  In the early years of parenting, parents need to show a lot of forbearance as their children make childish mistakes.  A child is a child is a child.

Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 13:11, “When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things.”  His topic was love, but his illustration was about childish ways.

Children make mistakes because they are human.  Your children are not perfect and will never be perfect.  Don’t crush them when they make a mistake.

Remember that someday they will become an adult and do away with childish things.  That day will come soon enough.

Something to think about…