Not Provoking Our Children – Way #9

Way #1 – Don’t expect more of them than they are capable of doing or giving.

Way #2 – Be careful how you reprimand them.

Way #3 – Practice what you preach and avoid double standards.

Way #4 - Teach them proper values.

Way #5 – Have good times with your kids.

Way #6 – Communicate affirmation, appreciation and encouragement.

Way #7 – Allow them to make mistakes.

Way #8 – Make known expectations, rules and regulations.

Way #9 – Admit to our own mistakes and ask for forgiveness.

Two recurrent themes in the Bible are confession and forgiveness.  We are to confess sin and ask for forgiveness if we sin against another.

We find both elements in 1 John 1:9, which says, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

James 5:16 says, “Therefore confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another, so that you may be healed.”

Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.”

The Bible is very clear.  We are to confess sins and either ask for forgiveness or be ready to forgive others. 

This teaching should not be for adults only, but also for adults who are parenting their children.  Whenever parents make a mistake, they should admit to their mistake or sin and ask for forgiveness whenever necessary.

Let’s say you think your child misplaced your keys so you reprimand them for it.  You then discover that in fact you just misplaced your keys.  Upon discovering your error, don’t just write it off as a mistake without admitting it to your child and asking them for forgiveness. 

A parent who does this is fulfilling a biblical mandate, which would be pleasing to the Lord and is also setting a good example to their child.  The child knows when they have been wrongly accused, which would provoke them to anger.  Your act of contrition would go a long way in building a trusting, healthy relationship with your child and developing in your child the capacity to forgive. 

So the next time you make a mistake or you unwittingly sin against your children, confess it to them and ask for forgiveness. 

Something to think about…