Ingredient #4 of a Sound Marriage

Ingredient #4 – Courtship 

The writer of Ecclesiastes wrote, “Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun…” Ecclesiastes 9:9a

This verse has a life of its own during the days of courtship.  

Traditionally, courtship is the period during which a man and a woman develop a romantic relationship with marriage ahead and a life of singleness in the rear view mirror.  Whether male or female, courtship is designed to persuade the opposite of the species to join together in marriage. 

It is at this time that men and women are on their best behavior.  They aim to please and please to aim at marriage.  Eventually, wedding bells ring and the blissful couple is off on their honeymoon in some exotic over-priced destination.

Sometime thereafter the phrase, “the honeymoon is over” is invoked and life becomes mundane.  Doors are no longer opened for her.  TV dinners begin to stock the freezer.  A night out consists of a Big Mac and fries.

What happened?

Husbands and wives see each other during the most challenging parts of each day.  Getting up in the morning and sending the kids off to school.  Coming home from work or a full day at home and dealing with the family from dinner to homework to bedtime.  And then, it starts all over again. 

The scriptures teach us to that husbands and wives should love one another all the days of their lives.  Ecclesiastes 9:9 begins with the admonition to “enjoy life”.  Couples are to enjoy one another.

One of the best ways of enjoying each other is to recapture courtship.   Remember the things that were and renew them.

Plan date nights and weekend getaways.  Set up babysitting so you can enjoy one another.  Life is short, just ask the writer of Ecclesiastes. 

So where’s the fun?  Like anything else worth doing, it will take effort.  Yes, it takes effort, but it is worth it.

Something to think about…