Caring for Aging Parents: Three Reasons for Taking Care of Relational Issues with Parents

In the event that we are called to take care of our aging parents, it would be wise to take care of any relational issues we may have with our parents.

There are at least three reasons for taking care of relational issues with parents.

The Sensible Reason: It makes sense to take care of relational issues since they will be magnified if we need to give them care in their later years.  For instance, if we have authority issues with either mom or dad, then we may have extra difficulty when role reversal takes place and we become the parent and they become the child.

The Scriptural Reason: In Malachi 4:6, the Lord admonishes His people to reconcile with parents as represented by their fathers.  God desires children to be in a reconciled relationship with their parents.  So even if there is no need to care for them, we should still desire to resolve any relational issues.

The Soulful Reason: It is good for the soul.  In Psalm 139:23-24, we learn that we should be desirous of the Lord showing us and healing us of any hurtful way within us.  Hence, we should desire to be healed of any parental issues. 

Here are some possible steps to take: 

  1. Solicit the Lord through prayer.  We have not because we ask not (James 4:2).
  2. Study the Word of God.  The Word of God can transform our hearts and mind (Hebrews 4:12, Romans 12:2) so that we are in a position to deal with parental issues.
  3. Seek Christian counseling. There is victory in a host of counselors (Proverbs 15:22).
  4. Submit your soul to some form of prayer ministry for healing of the heart (Matthew 7:7). 

Something to think about…