Disciplining Children: What Discipline is All About – Part Two

“For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines… All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.” Hebrews 12:6, 11

The purpose of discipline is instruction, not punishment.

The writer of Hebrews informs us that the purpose of discipline is instruction and training rather than punishment. He wrote “yet to those who have been trained by it…” and not “yet to those who have been punished by it”.

Discipline is enforced learning. It is a method of training.

A parent’s mindset is “I am going to discipline because I want them to learn” as opposed to “I am going to discipline because I have reached the end of my limits and I’m mad.”

Discipline associated with anger is usually punishment and not instruction.

Remember, discipline is all about instruction, not punishment. 

The result of discipline is peaceful fruit of righteousness.

Hebrews 12:11d says about discipline that “…afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.”

This is the most encouraging verse on discipline. I personally think it is a beautiful verse because it describes how a parent wants their child to be. 

Here are three thoughts about this verse.

First, discipline has a harvest; it yields something (fruit).

Secondly, discipline results in righteousness or correct behavior. 

Lastly, righteousness leads to peace whereas sin leads to disruption. 

The emotion of discipline is sorrow. The basis of discipline is love. The purpose of discipline is instruction, not punishment. The result of discipline is peaceful fruit of righteousness. 

When you consider what good discipline is all about, it is easy to conclude that one of the most loving things we can do for our children is to discipline them.

Something to think about…