Disciplining Children: What Discipline is All About – Part One

“For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines… All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.” Hebrews 12:6, 11 

The basis of discipline is love

Hebrews 12:6a “For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines…”  God disciplines those whom He loves.  It is something someone does for someone under their authority if they truly love them.  If we love our children, we will discipline them in appropriate ways. 

I have spoken with numerous high school and collegians about discipline and the boundaries associated with discipline.  Invariably, if parents do not discipline their children or set up boundaries associated with discipline (like curfews), the children eventually grow up thinking that their parents didn’t care about them, which translate to a lack of parental love.

The emotion of discipline is sorrow.

Often times, parents refrain from disciplining their children because they “feel” that it is unloving when, according to scripture, the emotion that is felt during discipline is sorrow.  Parents also want joy to be the predominant feeling of parenting. 

However, Hebrews 12:11a says, “All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful…”  The application of discipline is a sorrowful event for both parent and child.  It is meant to be so.  No one should enjoy proper discipline.

I remember the first time I had to discipline our first-born child.  It was a sorrowful experience for both of us.  I hated doing it, but I knew I had to do it since the Bible instructs parents to do so.  Thankfully, one of the blessings of discipline is that if done properly, it doesn’t have to be done very often.  Effective discipline has lasting impact.

Discipline is love and discipline is sorrowful. 

Something to think about…