How to Discipline Your Children – Part Twelve

Using the rod of discipline (Cont’d)

Here is a continuation of some general guidelines when applying the rod of discipline. 

Diminished application over time

As I shared before, the rod of discipline is applied appropriately, in most cases; parents will seldom have to use this form of discipline. With our children, I only had to spank them a few times. The Lord did the rest in their little hearts and minds. 

Hebrews 12:10 says, “For they disciplined us for a short time as seemed best to them, but He disciplines us for our good, so that we may share His holiness.” Here the writer of Hebrews is telling us that discipline exists for a short period of time. If discipline is applied correctly, it doesn’t and shouldn’t last forever in our children’s lives.

There are some special and unique circumstances and situations, which may require individual evaluation, distinct counsel and a special course of action.

Demonstrate your love for them

After disciplining your children, let them know that your love them.

Be sure to communicate with them after administering the rod. Children, especially between the ages of 2 to 7, want love and reassurance after being disciplined.

Here are five things you can do:

  1. Hold them and rock them.
  2. Tell them that you love them.
  3. Ask them why they were disciplined and make sure their understanding is correct.
  4. Tell them how to avoid it the next time.
  5.  Pray with them. 

According to James Dobson, “This moment of communication builds love, fidelity and family unity”.

Why discipline our children?

The Word of God teaches us that “All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.” Hebrews 12:11 

We disciplined our children because we desired to see the yield, which is the peaceful fruit of righteousness. 

Something to think about …