Seven Qualities of an Effective Father – Part Three

Effective Father Quality #3: An effective father consistently grows in Christ.

What children need most is a father who is godly… a dad who follows Jesus with all of his heart, soul, mind and body. Children need a godly father more than an affluent father, more than an athletic father, more than an able-bodied father, more than an acknowledged father and more than an accomplished father.

Here are three reasons why a father needs to be growing in Christ for the sake of their children. 

First, children will mimic you. They will do as you do and not as you say. Paul understood the power of mimicking. He wrote in 1 Corinthians 11:1 “Be imitators of me, just as I also am of Christ.”

Mimicking is at the very core of mentoring. Your children will watch you and learn from what you do more than from what you say. 

Every dad should desire to have their children mimic his walk with Jesus.

Secondly, your children will evaluate you. Children have an uncanny ability to cut through all of the superficial layers of pretense and see us for what we are. They pick up on motives immediately.

I don’t know how they know. I just know that they know. 

I took my namesake to Disneyland on a hot summer day. I suggested we go on “It’s a Small World” ride, which was my ‘go to’ ride for rest and a cat nap. Just before we entered the cool breeze of the ride, he asked me, “Are you going to sleep in here?” How did he know?

Lastly, your child will become like you. There is an adage that says, “The apple doesn’t fall very far from the tree.” Like most sayings, it has a kernel of truth to it. In fact, this one resounds like a cannon being shot in a library.

Just look at the family of Isaac in Genesis 25-28. Esau is like his father, Isaac. Jacob is like his mother, Rebekah. The family’s faith is apparent in everyone as well as family dysfunctions. The apple doesn’t fall… 

Fathers, you are important to your children. Your faith or lack thereof will greatly influence the future of your children.

Be a man of God so your children will know what it looks like to love the Lord with all of one’s heart and soul.

Something to think about…