Love Language #1: Words of Affirmation
The Proverbs are filled with verses describing the power of the spoken word. Let me list a few of those verses.
Proverbs 11:9 “With his mouth the godless man destroys his neighbor, but through knowledge the righteous will be delivered.”
Proverbs 16:24 “Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.”
Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”
Proverbs 25:11 “Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a word spoken in right circumstances.”
Words of affirmation are a powerful use of the tongue.
Mark Twain once said, “I can live for two months on a good compliment”. Chapman wrote, “If we take Twain literally, six compliments a year would have kept his emotional love tank at the operational level”*. Take it from me; we need more than six per year.
According the Webster, the word ‘affirmation’ “means to show a strong belief in or dedication to” someone or something. Words of affirmation tell a person that you have a strong belief in them as well as a dedication to them.
It’s telling your wife that she looks great in her new dress. It’s telling your child that they recovered well after making a mistake at their recital. It’s telling your teenage daughter that she is beautiful. It’s thanking your mom and dad for being such wonderful parents.
I believe that everyone feels loved when they receive words of affirmation. But there are some whose love language is the language of affirmation more than anything else.
Think about how you can affirm those around you. You may be giving them a breath of fresh love when you do.
Something to think about…