Love Languages (Part Seven) – Looking Out for the Interest of Others

Philippians 2:4 “…do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.”

In Philippians, the Apostle Paul instructs us to have the attitude or mind of Christ. One of the ways we live like Jesus is to look out not only for our own personal interests but also for the interests of others.

This principle of living can and should be applied to the love languages. Allow me to give you a hint as to how to do so.

We need to be very aware of the fact that our main love language may not be someone else’s main love language. I feel loved when someone significant touches me significantly whereas another person may just feel the physical contact without the association of being loved.

One of my major love languages is food (act of service). Whenever I provide a meal or a treat to my grandkids, I am showing my love to them. Churros, ice cream and cotton candy at Disneyland are not just a boatload of calories, but my way of expression of love for them.

I may be expressing my love to my grandkid by buying them their treats, but are they feeling loved and not just hyper. It is important to remember that our love language may not be their love language.

Looking out for the interest of others means that we try to ascertain the love language of others and speak to them in their language. It doesn’t make sense to go to Japan and speak to everyone in English and expect them to fully understand. They need to hear what you have to say in their own language.

My love language is food. My wife’s love language is quality time. I can take her to the most elegant restaurant in Los Angeles and she will enjoy it, but every morsel of food doesn’t translate into sentences of love. I can order the best dessert in town for her and it’s a language of calories and taste rather than love.

However, if she experiences our dinner as quality time, it’s win-win. I have expressed my love with an act of service and she has experienced it as quality time.

One more thing… we should try to be aware of people’s love language so that we receive from them the expression of love they are trying to give to us through their love language. My wife and grandchildren have come to understand my love language and know that whenever I take care of their nutritional needs, I am expressing my love for them.

So as you think about the languages of love, be sure to look out for the interest of others and not just your own.

Something to think about…