Death of a Loved One – A Tribute to the Wife of an NBA Assistant Coach

There is no greater loss in one’s life than losing a spouse or a child to death. The loss is painful. I have lost a father, a mother and a sister. The loss of any loved one is painful.

Here are some thoughts about pain and suffering.

First thought: God does not cause pain and suffering. We experience pain and suffering because of the choices we make. We experience pain and suffering because of the choices others make. We experience pain and suffering because we live in a fallen world. We experience pain and suffering because we are fragile.

Second thought: When we are in the midst of going through a painful experience, it is difficult to receive any message about pain and suffering. C.S. Lewis wrote: “You can’t see anything while your eyes are blurred with tears.

Third thought: It is important to seek and derive meaning in our pain and suffering. Vicktor Frankl (WWII Concentration Camp Survivor) wrote: “When we suffer, the single most important ingredient is seeing purpose in it. Lack of purpose breeds hopelessness; purpose imparts the strength to sustain. Suffering ceases to be suffering in some way at the moment it finds a meaning.”

For most of us, finding purpose in our pain and suffering is elusive at best. However, trusting in a God who loves us and is control of all things allows for us to cope and overcome our most difficult moments of pain and suffering. If for no other reason, our pain and suffering allows us to come face to face with the God of all comfort who not only comforts us but allows us to comfort others who may experience our pain and suffering someday.

Paul wrote in 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.”

Recently, Oklahoma Thunder Assistant Coach Monty Williams lost his wife in a tragic automobile accident. I found his words at her funeral to be comforting, profound and uplifting. His were words of life and not death.

I would like to share his words with you via this link.

It gives us something to think about…