The WELL Discipleship

by Judy Wang

On the evening of Wednesday, September 21, 2016, I attended the first meeting of my WELL group and joined five other women on what would become an amazing 28-week faith journey of self-discovery, healing, and transformation. There, in Virginia’s dining room, we passed around a sheet of paper, our covenant affirmation, and each signed our names at the bottom. We committed to each other that we would faithfully reserve this time to meet weekly, that we would earnestly seek Him with all our hearts, that we would accept the Father’s invitation and pray with great expectation, and that we would journey with each other in love, grace, trust, openness, and truth.

The original vision for the WELL Discipleship was inspired by the account of the woman at the well with Jesus in John 4:4-42. And like that woman, I found myself living in a world where I am constantly bombarded with the messages and expectations of who I should be, what I am worth, how I should live, who I should love, and what I should dream. Yet, in my heart and soul, I desperately longed for a quiet place away from the daily distractions and pressures of life; a place where I could reflect deeply on God’s truths and promises, surrender to His love and perfect will for me, and be refreshed and renewed in the company of women I could trust. My experience at the WELL was like that of a distant traveler leaving the desert and entering into an oasis of comfort, sanctuary, and rest for a weary and thirsty soul.

God has a wonderful and mysterious way of bringing people together and crossing paths that otherwise would never have crossed. And while each person was different in her own unique way, God pulled together an incredible group of women from whom I have gleaned much wisdom and insight into His faithfulness, love, and favor. First, there was Virginia, our gracious host, who taught me that prayer, tears and laughter are the best medicine. And Lauren, our resident baker extraordinaire, who reminded me of God’s faithfulness in times of transition and uncertainty. As well as Michelle, who was often the first to share vulnerably about her weekly challenges and bring us all to tears and laughter within minutes. Then Mona, who challenged me by her humility and desperation for God and leaning into Him through the hard times. Kelly, a young wife, and mother of three, who inspired me to find grace, joy and peace in my intimacy with God. And finally me, the chicken lady, as I absolutely loved sharing silly stories about the latest backyard antics from my pet chickens. (Yes, I am the proud momma of three feathered kids. Cue laughter.)

In John 4:18, it says, “There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear.” In trusting God and His plan and opening up my heart to these women, I allowed them to come alongside me and take this journey with me. From day one, they witnessed the growth of my relationship with my current boyfriend and brought my focus back to God when I experienced the ups and downs. I shared about my daily struggles with ADHD and depression and found the encouragement, support, and healing I needed to mature in my identity in Christ. When I discovered I had a food allergy to gluten, they began incorporating gluten-free options in the refreshments we served at our meetings, and I experienced God’s love in the little things. And last, when I was laid off from my job, they rallied around me and prayed for me. While I don’t know where our future paths will take us, I know that the friendships I have developed at the WELL will always stay with me and that we will continue finding ways to stay connected in each others’ lives.

In Psalm 46:10, it says, “Be still and know that I am God.” Before the WELL, I found that if I slowed down just a bit, my insecurities, my need to prove myself, my habits of striving and performing, and my feelings of disconnect would often catch up to me. And through the WELL, I discovered that I had been transformed into a woman that is much more surrendered, connected to Him and community, and satisfied in my soul. What a Perfect Love we have in our Father God through Jesus Christ, who longs dearly to draw us into greater intimacy with Him!

My hope, dear reader, is that you may be blessed in knowing that you are in relationship with a Father God that pursues you, a God that desires to be your rock, your refuge, and your healer. He calls for you, and His invitation to you, to lean in closer, to know Him more, to let Him love you extravagantly, and to satisfy the deepest longings of your soul, is given freely to you.

Will you answer and join Him at the WELL?

(Note: Our next WELL Season enrollment is May 2018.)

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Leaving A Legacy – Epilogue: A Call to Discipleship

“If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me.” Mark 8:34b

If we hope to leave a legacy that edifies Jesus, we must make a decision to be His disciple and follow Him. As we follow Jesus with all of our heart, our legacy in Christ will begin to take shape and become established.

Looking at Jesus’ call to discipleship in Mark 8, we see four things from Jesus’ call to become His disciple.

First, it starts with us. Jesus said, “If anyone…” meaning each and every person must make a personal decision to follow Jesus. No one can make the decision for us. It is ours and ours alone.

Second, we must change our primary loyalty. Jesus said, “wishes to come after Me”. Becoming a disciple means we shift our primary loyalty from whatever has a hold on us to Jesus. Being a disciple requires to “come after” Jesus, which means our primary loyalty must first and foremost be to Him.

Third, we must choose to live sacrificially. Denying oneself and taking up a cross means to live a life of willing sacrifice. As shared in an earlier blog, the most lasting legacies are built on sacrifice, not selfishness.

Finally, we will need to take a step in the right direction. Jesus concluded His call to discipleship by saying, “…and follow Me”. Following someone means taking a step in the same direction as the one we follow.

Leaving a lasting legacy in Christ means we start with ourselves, we change our primary loyalty, we choose to live sacrificially and we take a step in the right direction.

May we all desire to leave a lasting legacy in Jesus.

Something to think about…

Leaving A Legacy – Part Four

The memory of the righteous is blessed.” Proverbs 10:7

In previous blogs, we have learned that:

1.    Everyone leaves a legacy.

2.    Everyone has been left a legacy.

3.    A legacy can be either positive or negative.

4.    The legacy you received is not as important as the legacy you leave.

5.    The legacy you received can influence the legacy you leave.

6.    The legacy you leave may have more influence than the life you lead.

7.    The life you lead determines the legacy you leave.

Let’s continue.

8.    The most lasting legacies are built on sacrifice, not selfishness.

One of the fundamental teachings of Jesus is living a sacrificial life. He said, “Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends.” (John 15:13) Jesus’ life of love was based on His willingness to be selfless to the point of death on a cross. His selflessness was built upon His attitude of humility.

Paul wrote in Philippians 2:5-8, “Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, 6 who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, 7 but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. 8 Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.” Jesus was willing to humble Himself to the point of making the ultimate sacrifice for the sake of others. His sacrificial death is a part of His lasting legacy to all those who believe.

9.    The children are a part of your legacy.

The most significant legacy parents leave is flesh and blood. Children may be the greatest legacy anyone could possibly leave.

As I quoted Neil Postman in a previous blog, “Children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see.” His quote is all about leaving a legacy through our children.

As we raised our children, I tried to remember that our children were living messages we were sending into a future that we would never see. Now that I am a grandfather of eleven, I take very seriously that I get to help influence grandchildren who are living messages our children are sending into a future they will never see.

Finally, I am most thankful for the fact that legacy leaving is not a solitary endeavor. There are many who help with the enterprise. My wife, my extended family, my church, teachers, coaches, friends and others all play a role. Most of all, I have peace that my ultimate helper in leaving a legacy is Jesus. Thank you, Jesus.

Something to think about…

 

Leaving A Legacy – Part Three

The memory of the righteous is blessed.” Proverbs 10:7

As we look at legacy leaving, we have seen thus far that:

1.    Everyone leaves a legacy.

2.    Everyone has been left a legacy.

3.    A legacy can be either positive or negative.

4.    The legacy you received is not as important as the legacy you leave.

5.    The legacy you received can influence the legacy you leave.

Let’s continue.

6.    The legacy you leave may have more influence than the life you lead.

Everyone has spheres of concern and spheres of influence. We pray for our spheres of concern and try to do something tangible in our spheres of influence.

For example, I have a concern for feeding those who are hungry. The need is so massive that I can only do something within my spheres of influence. Therefore, I contribute and help with feeding children in Malawi, Africa and with our food distribution program at our church.

My hope is that whatever legacy I leave will have a greater influence on the world than the influence I have had in my lifetime.

I often think about a quote from educator Neil Postman. He wrote, “Children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see.” His quote is all about leaving a legacy through our children.

7.    The life you lead determines the legacy you leave.

How we lead our lives will greatly influence the legacy we leave. For example, the things like faith are caught, not taught.

Jesus’ greatest influence on His disciples happened as they lived life with Him. They caught the things He was teaching by watching Him and eventually living out their lives in accordance with His life and His teachings.

Part of Jesus’ legacy to this world was the disciples whom He influenced by the life He led.

We may do well to ask ourselves the question, “Who am I influencing in the world today?” A secondary question might be, “How am I influencing them?”

Something to think about and more to come…

Leaving A Legacy – Part Two

The memory of the righteous is blessed.”  Proverbs 10:7

In Part 1 (2 weeks ago), I addressed points 1 & 2. Let’s continue our look into #3, 4 & 5 of 9 thoughts about legacy.

1.    Everyone leaves a legacy.

2.    Everyone has been left a legacy.

3.    A legacy can be either positive or negative.

Positive legacies are the ones that are beneficial to others. My father taught me to never say something negative today that could be said tomorrow. It gives us time to cool down if we are upset and think about what we were about to say. I consider his advice as a positive legacy from him.

Negative legacies are the ones that hinder us as a person. For example, a family sin that is passed down from generation to generation would be a negative legacy. The Bible speaks of this in Exodus 20:5, which says, “You shall not worship them or serve them; for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children, on the third and the fourth generations of those who hate Me”.

4.    The legacy you received is not as important as the legacy you leave.

We have very little or no control over the legacy we received. It is normally a byproduct of being raised and living life. A financial legacy is a result of the way your family handled it material possessions over a lifetime. Most children do not have direct control over it.

We do have some measure of control and influence over the legacy we leave. We make decisions all the time, which directly impact the legacy we will leave. In Proverbs 22:6, the Bible says to “Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.” This verse speaks directly to leaving a positive legacy for your children.

5.    The legacy you received can influence the legacy you leave.

There can be a direct correlation between the legacy you received to the legacy you leave.  If you received a positive legacy, it would be a good thing to pass it forward. If it is a negative legacy that it would wise not to pass it forward.

Remember that any negative legacy you received doesn’t have to hold you in bondage and captivate the legacy you leave. God is in the business of bringing healing and new life into those who desire it, which means that a negative legacy can be overcome. Paul wrote in 2 Corinthians 5:17 “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.” Old things passing away and new things coming into being mean that negative legacies can be surmounted.

Something to think about and more to come…